Counselling, and more in-depth psychotherapy, are ways of opening doors, from the inside, that have been stuck. They allow us to walk out into a space where we have greater freedom. There are times, though, when the excitement and clarity of a life lived freely and responsibly are not there for us and when even the support of family and friends, if we are lucky enough to have that, doesn’t seem to help. Medication may have been tried and found wanting, or the concern over its side-effects may put us off too casually making use of it. And yet, to be held in the grip of states like depression or anxiety or in a relationship conflict that seems to have no resolution, demands from us our urgent attention. If this is the situation we find ourselves in, then counselling can offer some hope.
Good counselling offers the possibility of understanding the nature of our difficulties, where they come from and what changes they are asking of us. It begins with the belief that that understanding resides in us—all of us. It is an understanding that has always been there, but which has been covered over by layers of received misinformation, training and habit. The task of the counsellor is to assist us in finding our way through those accumulated layers to a deeper, truer understanding of ourselves and others. From understanding comes choice, from choice, freedom.
If counselling, with a counsellor who is right for you, sounds as though it may be what you are looking for, I welcome you to contact me to find out more and/or to book a session. Sessions are one hour long and can be done face-to-face or via Skype.
“We are deeply helpful only when we relate as persons, when we risk ourselves as persons in the relationship, when we experience the other as a person in his own right. Only then is there a meeting at a depth that dissolves the pain of aloneness in both client and therapist.”
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I have been a client of David’s for 2 years, and have found him to have a high degree of gentleness, respectfulness, sensitivity, sincerity and compassion…I highly recommend David as a counselor and therapist.–Anonymous client
…we made significant individual shifts that healed and re-enlivened our relationship. We highly recommend his professional service.”–Susanna Pearson & Thomas Goodman
J. and me left the consult with a freedom that we have never experienced before… WE CAN BE OURSELVES!!!!! I would recommend David Shapiro De Sole to anyone who has relationship issues. –C. & J.