Responsibility and Depression

Mostly I’ve been educated to be a responsible person. When I claim that mostly I’ve been a responsible person, I mean that, by and large, I’ve done things I was expected to do in order to be thought a good person. Being responsible means I have responded to those expectations. Since my childhood when I started seriously working at being responsible, I have had the expectation that one day, later in life, I would experience some satisfaction in my ...

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Couple Relationships: One or Two?

In an earlier musing I shared some thoughts about paradox, and sitting here now asking myself what it is I want to say about the difficult-to-delineate world of couple relationships, my mind keeps circling round that single word, paradox. So, what, specifically, is it I find paradoxical about a relationship formed by two people, two separate people, to make a single unit? I think what tantalizes my mind is that two opposite things both seem true. It’s summed up in ...

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Marriage/Couple Counselling and the Art of Listening

Staying together in a primary relationship can require endurance. Moving through the difficulties that inevitably arise in it can demand resilience to bounce back from the hurtful words that may be spoken or behaviours that we may wish had never happened . It is this latter quality that provides the title and theme of a book by Melbourne family therapist, Moshe Lang, and his wife, Tesse Lang. The book, Resilience: Timeless Stories of a Family Therapist, has been something of ...

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Choosing a Counsellor

Choosing an appropriate counsellor for ourselves takes a bit of work, thought and intuition. It may not usually be as crucial a decision as choosing a life partner, a career or where to invest our life savings, but, I reckon there are instances when it can be. As in other areas of our life, we learn just how important a decision was only after the fact, especially when we’ve made an unusually good or bad decision. How things eventually turn ...

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Anxiety, Depression & those “Small” Decisions

We are making decisions all the time. Each day numerous moments call upon us to decide on some matter however small. Should we buy the piece of furniture we want or the one we can afford; should we return a friend’s phone call on the answering machine now or wait until we feel like talking to that friend; should we drop a few coins in the busker’s hat or just walk on by; should we mention on the job application ...

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Relational Conflict: Paradox or Problem?

A few nights ago, I woke up at about three in the morning, declaring to myself, “I must do it! I must do it!”

For a couple of days, I had been feeling extremely stressed. I had talked to a friend that morning, who was badly in need of help, and as a result, I was uncertain what to do. I strongly wanted to support my friend in some way, and at the same time I feared becoming entangled in a ...

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Loneliness

I caught an ABC program on Radio National the other day as I was preparing my lunch–a salad, which is pretty much what I have for lunch every afternoon with the exception of Christmas Day dinner and the odd time there’s nothing in the garden or the fridge. It was a program about loneliness. My ears pricked up because I’m interested in loneliness. I’ve experienced my share of it and I often see it directing the behaviour of others in ...

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Men’s Group

The Men’s Group meets each Tuesday evening, 7:00 – 9:00 pm, in Bowral. It is an informal gathering of men who value talking with other men of different ages and backgrounds, in a safe, confidential and supportive environment, about whatever issues concern them. New members are warmly welcomed.

Contact David – Ph: 02 4862 3595.

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