Musings

It seems to me that one of the most fundamental questions many of us face these days is something like: “Is it possible to enter and sustain a relationship without losing my freedom?”  If the answer could possibly be, yes, then, we want to know, “How do we do that?”

It isn’t terribly complex.  Actually, it’s rather simple.  Listen.  That’s right, just listen.

Let me invite you to eavesdrop for a brief moment on an imagined couples counselling  session.

Rob (In response to ...

Anger management is important to ourselves and to others.  It is usually unpleasant for the person experiencing the anger, especially afterwards, and invariably for the person at whom it is directed.  The one at the receiving end may feel afraid, resentful, shamed, angry themselves or all of these emotions at once.  The end result for both ...

Depression as a Public Issue

One in seven Australians suffer with some form of depression in their lifetime. Based on a measure of its negative effects on communities and individuals, it is currently rated as the world’s third most debilitating and costly illness. The World Health Organization has predicted that ...

What are the contradictions of couples counselling?

What is it I can briefly yet clearly say about the apparent contradictions of couples counselling? How do two separate people come to live as a single unit?  Can two, in some sense, become one, and if so, do they then stop being two?

Couples counselling addresses the question, what is this thing that we can’t see, touch or measure, and that we call a relationship, or more specifically, being a couple?  Do we stop being ...

Holistic counselling is inclusive in what it considers significant for a client’s well-being.  Every area that pertains to human life is on the table for possible consideration.  No area of activity is left out because to leave it out would be to disavow a part of our humanity and to overlook the fact that all aspects of us, as living systems, ...

What do I mean when I use that term, spiritual counselling?

There are times when I have felt that after nine years working as a counsellor, I’m finally getting my head around what counselling is, what it might be and what it is for.  Such moments usually come unexpectedly and surprise me that different areas of my professional and private ...