Musings

Relationship is an Art in Listening

Is relationship really an art in listening? Listening seems to be one of those things that is highly underrated in western countries.  It's talking, having something to say and saying it effectively, that is primarily valued.  Of course, being an effective speaker is...

Counselling for Earthly Inhabitants

The phrase, counselling for earthly inhabitants, invites our attention in a specific way. It started when I was reading some introductory paragraphs in a book about contemplation. The opening section of the book claimed the basic requirement for leading a thoughtful...

What is Empathic Counselling?

Thinking about empathic counselling I was seated in the living room of a friend where a small group of us were just finishing up our monthly meeting of dream sharing and discussion.  As is often the case, we were all marvelling on how much easier it was to make sense...

Counselling Whole Persons and Their Parts

How does counselling whole persons and their parts at the same time work? I want to pick up on the question raised in the previous musing of how do we know when it's most helpful to approach ourselves as a single, whole person or a person made up of many different and...

Counselling for the Whole of Us

What is a counselling for the whole of who we are? Now and again, it happens in my work as a counsellor and in my personal life that the word, "holistic", comes up. I like the word, I've liked it for a long while now, but it's only recently that I've started to ask...

What Makes for Depression

What makes for depression? Mostly I've been educated to be a responsible person, and, at the same time, not a depressed one. When I claim that mostly I've been a responsible person, I mean that, by and large, I've done things I was expected to do in order to be...

Couple Counselling is an Art in Listening

Why is Couple Counselling an art in listening? Staying together in a primary relationship can require endurance. Moving through the difficulties that inevitably arise in it can demand resilience to bounce back from the hurtful words that may be spoken or behaviours...

Choosing a Counsellor for You

Choosing a counsellor for you. Choosing an appropriate counsellor for ourselves takes a bit of work, thought and intuition. It may not usually be as crucial a decision as choosing a life partner, a career or where to invest our life savings, but, I reckon there are...

Anxiety and Depression, those “Small” Decisions

We are making decisions all the time. Each day numerous moments call upon us to decide on some matter however small. Should we buy the piece of furniture we want or the one we can afford; should we return a friend's phone call on the answering machine now or wait...

Counselling Relational Conflict

The following personal experience taught me something about counselling relational conflict, whether that conflict is with another or inside me. A few nights ago, I woke up at about three in the morning, declaring to myself, "I must do it! I must do it!" For a couple...

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